Users on emotional changes after quitting porn

People who quit porn frequently report one very important change: they feel more emotions. Here are experiences shared by a few users who are quitting porn for good in regard to emotions:

  • “Like any other addiction, porn numbs your pain. It also numbs the positive range of emotions like happiness, hope, joy and love.”
  • “you will experience emotions you haven’t felt for years. Girls became attractive again and you will not see them as a sexual object. But sometimes you will feel sad, depressed. But don’t fall into that trap. This phase will pass soon and you will grow stronger. It might not be easy but it is worth doing”
  • “I had never thought about things like grief until I started the process of quitting porn and stopping fapping. I suddenly witnessed strongly, my emotional side. It was very important to me at that point in life to feel those feelings.”
  • “For me, this change did not happen overnight. I used to be a very emotional and affectionate person before I started porn. But, after I started watching porn, it made me insensitive to love and emotions. Now, I have gone for 20 days without porn and masturbation. And few girls are already approaching me.
  • “Masturbation to porn had numbed the extreme feelings, I now experience these emotions like never before.”

Exactly how does porn numb our emotions? Our brains evolved to strive for homeostasis. If we’re bombarded with intense stimulation, they adjust. Chronic overstimulation can thus lead to numbness. Removing the overstimulation feels dull and meaningless, but gradually the numbness reverses itself and enthusiasm increases.

Doug Lisle explains this excellently in his TEDx talk: The Pleasure Trap. He explained how overeaters can reverse food cravings with periods of fasting. The same principle of increasing sensitivity by avoiding overstimulation applies to masturbation and porn.  

If you’re wondering how to stop masturbation, NoPo might be a good app to help you.

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