Is having sex necessary for rewiring?

The nofap process will help with rewiring of the brain from porn addiction. Rewiring will speed up things once normal sensitivity is restored. But there is a point where a person either does not connect with women naturally because he had watched porn from say, age 9 to 21 or there is a point where the brain can deeply wire for porn that the porn- pathways will never weaken.

A story shared by one of our users:

“I lost my virginity when I was 20. I never had any previous sexual contact with a girl before, but I had been masturbating to porn since 6 years. I masturbated first at the age of 14, so I didn’t do anything to have an erection for a real girl. It was naturally there. I used to masturbate only minimally and did not escalate to porn compilations. So I guess I didn’t get desensitized. I didn’t start on porn but the point here is that I naturally had wiring for a girl. So, do you think a guy can abstain from PM and all O’s until he can get erect with touch alone, and therefore be able to have sex with a real girl without rewiring?”

I don’t know if this applies for all people, but yes it is possible to reboot without rewiring. Because if you can get an erection by a mere touch you can have an erection when a girl is touching you. Unless some unique anxiety happens.

Some people assume rewiring as “real sex”. They believe they have to have sex to rewire. However, just imagining girls, being around them will help in wiring one up. So,  I think anyone can rewire to real partners.

A few guys visit prostitutes to rewire to “normal sexuality”. But it does more harm than good.  It is nothing like intimacy with a real partner.

It’s also important to understand that anything that isn’t normal doesn’t help rewire the brain. That’s the reason rewiring requires completely abstaining from watching porn. You might want to install an effective website blocker on your phone.

Rewiring is learning. Hence, it should be consistent. Few visits to prostitutes will not do any good. Secondly, rewiring should match reality. Also, the inability to achieve an erection with a prostitute will create more anxiety. If you’re trying to figure out how to get rid of masturbation habit, you might want to check out NoPo app.

Does reboot only mean not ejaculating?

Some persons undergoing the rebooting process believe that as long as they avoid ejaculation, they are successfully rebooting. This leads them to start an unhelpful practice called edging. It is masturbating up to the edge of orgasm, then revving up again. Three common versions of edging:

  1. Masturbating without porn and no ejaculation
  2. Masturbating with viewing of  porn, no ejaculation
  3. Watching porn without masturbating

Since a reboot is termed as no porn or it’s substitutes 2 & 3 make no sense. For those trying to quit porn and stop masturbation, edging while viewing porn is actually worse than having an orgasm.

Edging without porn

It is not similar to the edge with a sexual partner. Sexual intercourse means wiring your sexual response to another person. It is important to know that sexual stimulation is the highest level of naturally produced dopamine. It is at a peak during the process of edging. At orgasm, prolactin rises, which decreases the dopamine to lower levels and hampers its release.

No edging versus edging, here’s what some of our users say:

  • One user: 2 years ago started on the journey of quitting porn and I got extensive energy from it.
  • Another guy explained even a small edge is dangerous, it increases gradually and it becomes difficult to resist the cravings.
  • Another person explained that edging is worse. You should stop it immediately. Porn use alters the brain and causes sexual dysfunction.
  • Another user reported that his varicocele pain was due to the practice of edging. But when he started on the process of quitting porn, it vanished within a week and there was zero pain in his testicles. It is important to understand that edging and varicocele pain are related. It aggravates the pain.

Edging to porn

Edging can keep dopamine levels high for hours. Further, edging to porn, doesn’t provide any benefits as the dopamine secretion and arousal are still connected to porn. These high dopamine levels push the reward circuit to repeat it again and again. It conditions your sexual arousal to everything related to porn use. Dopamine increases when something is better than expected but drops when expectations are not met. When real sex doesn’t match porn, dopamine drops along with your excitement and erections.

Some urologists also suggest stopping masturbation without orgasm (edging) because it can cause pain in the testicles and cause many problems in the prostate.

To conclude, edging is not the correct way to recover. It just increases your dopamine and slows down the recovery.  It is worse than masturbating.

FAQs on reboot

How long does it take to reboot?

For some it takes less time while for some it takes more. An average reboot takes 90 days-120 days. Therefore it is recommended to set goal ( say 90 days) and then divide it into smaller goals that will be easier to achieve.  You can divide it like :

  • 3 days;
  • 7 days
  • 2 weeks;
  • 3 weeks;
  • 4 weeks
  • 6 weeks
  • 2 months;
  • 3 months;
  • 100 days.

Can I go back to watching porn after reboot?

No, if you start watching porn again, your whole journey of quitting porn will be in vain. Rebooting means completely quitting porn, and living a real life instead of the cybernet one.

Is it ok if I only watch porn once while rebooting?

No, it is not ok to watch porn while rebooting – not even once. If you want to successfully reboot in a shorter period of time then you have to stop watching pornography completely. If you watch porn, it will set you back by around ⅓ of your reboot and end up with a urge so you do it not only once and end up killing your whole reboot process. It’s advisable to install a porn blocker app to help you stay away from it.

Is it ok to masturbate without porn?

It is a better choice than combining it with porn. Still, if you want to reboot successfully, you should stop masturbating as well.

What is edging?

A masturbation without orgasm.

Is edging ok?

Edging is not the best way to reboot rather it is a temptation. But, you could end up having an orgasm.

Can I have sex?

Yes, if you’re experiencing ED you can try to avoid it for once. However, In any other case – go ahead. It shoots libido levels and has positive effects on your reboot.

What does PMO stand for?

P – Porn

M – Masturbation

O – Orgasm.

What does PE/ED/DE mean?

PE – Premature Ejaculation

ED – Erectile dysfunction

DE – Delayed Ejaculation

What is a flatline?

A period of time when you have zero sexual desire for sex. But it’s only a phase and it passes.

So where does one start on the reboot?

First of all you can start by getting rid of your porn related collection. Delete all the videos, pictures, bookmarks and throw away porn related magazines.

Story from a user: 90 days of abstaining from porn changed my life

Like other people among my friends, I also started watching porn at an early age. Initially, it was normal but then it became serious. Before I could realise, I was addicted to it. It became a daily routine for me to wake up and watch some porn. Any free time I could find I would spend watching porn. My porn collection had grown to a whopping 1 terabyte and I knew all the movies by heart. I never had a girlfriend, when I went out with my friends it was usually the girls who come up to me to start the conversation. There were many times when I refused to go out with my friends, just to stay at home and fap.

Finally, one day when I was browsing on the internet I found NoPo mobile app on some no-porn thread. I just clicked on it out of curiosity and at first, I laughed at the fact that porn could be an addiction. Then, after watching a few youtube videos on this subject I realised that most of what was being discussed pretty much overlapped with my life. I decided to give this NoFap app a try and decided to quit porn.   

The first week was very difficult. When I got the binge to watch porn, I had to quickly divert myself to another thing. After 3 weeks I noticed changes in my behaviour. I was less socially awkward and could easily be able to make eye contact with women. Now, I was the first one to communicate with them. That’s when I decided to delete all of my porn collection. Normally deleting even 1 movie was difficult for me, but deleting my entire collection became very easy for me.

I have been porn free for 90 days now and have had more girls in the past few weeks than in my entire life. This whole process of quitting porn for good changed me as a person. I do still fap occasionally, but that’s maybe 2 or 3 times a month, and only using my imagination. It has become better when you only use real girls and your imagination. Earlier I used to think porn was harmless, but only now I have realised that it has taken away many precious years of my life. Willpower and the urge to change my life was the only mantra that kept me strong in the whole process.

Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs) on Masturbation

There are many misconceptions about the habit of masturbation. In this Q&A, we cover some of the most common questions and misconception about masturbation.

Is masturbation harmful?

From a health science viewpoint, masturbation is not at all harmful for your health. Rather it is a personal choice of the individual while some people relate it with morality. It is a normal and healthy sexual behaviour.

Is excessive masturbation harmful to a man’s health? Side effects of masturbation

It is rightly said that self-control is the key. Because an excess of anything can be harmful. Masturbating excessively can cause some serious side-effects:

  • Fatigue
  • Weakness
  • premature ejaculation
  • may also hinder sexual activities with your partner
  • injury to the penis
  • testicular pain

If you find yourself excessively masturbating, you need to divert the excess energy in a more healthier way, such as:

  • Yoga
  • Meditation
  • Usage of mobile apps designed to reducing masturbation/porn might be helpful.
  • NoPo is an app that we recommend for reducing porn/masturbation
  • listening to music.
  • joining dance classes
  • joining aerobics, running, cycling, swimming etc
  • If the tendency persists, you can consult a psychiatrist or a counsellor as it can also be related to mental stress.

Is it healthy for a man to masturbate daily?

The answer to this question is subjective. Masturbating daily can be normal for some men whereas for others it can be undesirable. Skipping regular orgasms adds to stress levels and mental health issues, frustration, irritation and unhappiness. Thus masturbation helps in releasing stress and stabilises your mood and makes you happy and healthier. Though, some sex experts claim that daily masturbation can be considered excessive. It can lead to weakness, fatigue, early ejaculation and may also hamper sexual activities with your real partner. As long as masturbation is not affecting your daily routine or overall energy levels, it should be considered normal.

How many times in a week is masturbation considered normal for a man?

Again, the answer to this question differs from man to man. It is generally based on his general health conditions and sex drive. There are some men who masturbate two to three times a week, or five times a week or once in a week. But, excess of anything is very harmful. Therefore you can divert your energy from masturbation onto some kind of sports activities or other hobbies. This will help you maintain a balanced and healthy lifestyle.

Can masturbation replace having sex with a partner?

  • No, masturbation cannot replace sex with your partner. Both the things have their own relevance. In fact, masturbation can increase the experience of having sex with your partner for real because you know your body better. But if you are frequently masturbating and it has started to hinder your sexual life with your partner, then it might be a sign of a problem. Because, you are missing out on the experience of intimacy with your partner while having sex. However, sometimes you can replace masturbation with sex and it can be considered valid in some of those situations which are:
  • If your partner’s sex drive is lower than yours
  • If your partner is pregnant
  • If your partner is not available with you
  • If your partner is sick

Can masturbation cause premature ejaculation?

As it is rightly said, excess of anything is harmful. It is so with excessive masturbation as well, because it can damage the nerves. It can further cause premature ejaculation or even ejaculation during sleep also.

Can masturbation affect your sperm count?

It is a myth that masturbation decreases your sperm count, as sperms are produced regularly in men’s body. It takes time to ejaculate again after one ejaculation. But, that does not indicate that your sperm count is depleting.

When is masturbation not safe for men?

Masturbation is generally considered safe. However, if it is done excessively and fiercely, then it can be harmful. Here are some situations which are not considered safe during masturbation:

  • STI may occur if someone shares sex toys with an infected person.
  • Masturbation in face-down position is not considered safe as it exerts more pressure to the penis. To avoid this, better positions are standing, sitting or lying on back.
  • Squeezing penis while ejaculating can damage the nerves and blood vessels in the penis and will force the semen into the urinary bladder. This should be avoided to prevent the flow of semen.

Can masturbation make you thin?

Technically it can be considered as an exercise you perform. But, masturbation will not make you thin.

Will a man’s testosterone level lower due to masturbation?

No, as per research, masturbation only affects the circulation of testosterone levels. However, self-resistance is the key. Because excessive masturbation will lower the testosterone levels.

How do I know that I am masturbating excessively?

Here are some symptoms that will help in knowing if you are  masturbating excessively:

  • it causes you significant distress.
  • You are practising it multiple times to escape from stress or realities of day to day life.
  • regularly injuring self by rubbing aggressively.
  • hardly spending time with friends or family as you are too busy pleasuring yourself.
  • constantly feeling lustful and fighting the urge to pleasure yourself.
  • experiencing pain in your genitals.

What is the treatment for excessive masturbation?

Someone who is seeking relief from excessive masturbation immediately needs to consult a general physician, who may, in turn, refer you to a psychiatrist or a counsellor. Sessions with a psychiatrist or a counsellor will help you to regulate and divert your energies in a more productive way and gradually detach you from aggressive masturbation. Sometimes, medication may also be suggested depending on your symptoms and general health conditions. You can also use apps that teach youhow to stop fapping.

We aren’t evolutionarily prepared for porn

There was an interesting experiment conducted to study mating behaviour using rats. A male rat was placed in a cage with 4-5 female rats that were in heat. First, the male rat began mating all the female rats until he was exhausted. After some time, the male no longer showed interest in the female rats, even though the female rats kept on nudging him. However, when a new female rat was introduced, he began to mate once again with the new female. This is known as the Coolidge effect – response to novel mates.

There are primitive parts of our brain that respond to images of novel women exactly like the lab rat in the previous example. This is the part of our brain that controls all of our subconscious decision making, emotions and instincts. This part urges us to fertilise digital versions of these women, through the generation of dopamine – the neuro-chemical that makes us seek and search for rewards. It is due to this reason that people get addicted to usage of porn.

This circuitry of our brain makes it so difficult to stay away from porn. One of the best ways to stay away from porn is to use an effective porn blocker.

If you’re trying to quit your masturbation habit, install NoPo Gold- stop fap app today to start your recovery.

Porn is different from sex addiction

Many people have a misconception that porn and sex addiction are the same mental disorder expressed differently. But the difference is huge. From the surface level, they may seem the same but there are fundamental differences between the two to the point where they’re not that similar at all. Differences between Porn and Sex Addiction:

1)One clear difference between porn addiction and sex addiction is that sex addiction requires a partner whereas a porn addict just needs a computer/mobile screen or a magazine with adult content.

2)Porn addiction is like game addiction as it is very far away from the real world. Heavy porn users do not get aroused by real women. Their mind always searches women of the type they see in the porn.

3)Porn addicts do not share good behaviour with members of the opposite sex. For example, if they have a girlfriend, they like to respond sexually to her. Their sense of emotion dies. Sex addicts just want a variety of partners, being hooked on novel people rather than novel videos.

4) Porn addiction can lead to masturbation addiction. Once you become a porn addict it will not be easy to stop masturbating.

It’s no wonder that so many people view pornography addiction and sex addiction as two sides of the same coin, just because they lack a deep understanding of how different addictions can take hold. When we look deeply and in a more detailed way it becomes clear that these two disorders are completely different. A porn addict might have no interest in sex, and a sex addict may never watch porn. Both of the addictions are not good for health. So, it’s better to stop masturbation in order to live a new and healthy life. This app will help some common questions like how to get rid of watching pornography forever

Is it okay to masturbate during a reboot?

It is suggested to completely eliminate masturbation and orgasm during reboot. As many rebooters claim that temporary timeout resets sexual arousal template. Recovery may be easier without masturbation because it reactivates cravings to use porn. Although there is neither something wrong with masturbation when practised in general nor it is harmful to your body. Nor it is comparable with sexual intercourse. But the majority of men who recovered from porn-induced erectile dysfunction chose to reduce masturbation and orgasm. However long periods of abstinence may not yield better results. If you’re trying to quit porn/masturbation click here to install NoPo – quit porn app.